Now I know that being a single parent, especially a single mother is all but simple. But sometimes encouragement for a single mother from a single mother is much-needed. Sometimes you just need someone to tell you everything is OK or will be OK and you can do it. Some times you just need to hear the testimony of others who may have been in similar situations and how they worked through it all. Today I thought I’d share some encouragement for single mothers from a single mother. Please know that you are not alone and do not have to be alone in your journey.
You Can Do All Things!
Philippians 4:13 says “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.” I believe this with my all. Parenting as a single mother may have its unbearable moments, but you can do all things any other mom can do. Just take one day at a time and remember that if not anyone else, you have God and your children who are looking for you to accomplish everything you set out to do. God would not give you anything that you could not handle.
So, you’re a single momma, He knows you can handle it… You can do this. I don’t know who your support team may consist of, but count me as a member. Build your support team. People who you can talk to when you need to vent or need advice or just need a pep talk. NO you don’t have to do it by yourself. But YOU CAN DO THIS!
Not a Struggle But a Journey
You want to know the one word I had to delete from my vocabulary? Struggle. Think about it, when you use the word struggle what feelings are attached to the word? Defeat, uselessness, depression maybe. The word struggle does not come with good feelings. Now I get why people use, trust me I do understand the struggle, but I had to learn that my words had power. Even power over how I felt.
I had to learn to use other words to help me feel better about my situation. Journey is the word I used to replace struggle. I had to think of it like this, why struggle when I can enjoy each day of my journey. I also had to realize that a journey may take you on some learning experiences. So I may struggle with some things but instead of speaking the struggle into my life I’d rather continue my journey each day, one step at a time.
All I’m trying to say is be careful of your thoughts and your words. They are very powerful, and can shape who you are and who you may become.
Don’t Worry Be Happy
Bob Marley might have said it best. Don’t Worry be Happy! It’s easy to worry about EVERYTHING as a single mother. We worry about money, health, our children, our family, relationships in general, and everything in between. It is so easy to worry it almost comes naturally. But someone once told me that if I am worrying about something no matter how big or small I’m not trusting God to work it out.
“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything…” Philippians 4:6 NLT.
Honestly this is something I am working on even now. I will get so caught up in whatever my current situation may be and realize I don’t have enough money for this or I need something to happen before this one thing can happen. Why worry? Seriously, all that will do is give you gray hair. (I might have more than one up there lol). But trust God to work things out for you. All you have to do is pray about it and give it to Him, trusting Him to take care of it.
Forgiveness is a concept that may seem difficult for many. I know you have heard the expression forgiveness is not for the one to be forgiven but for you as the forgiver. Sometimes having hurt, hatred or just being bothered by a situation or a person, may hinder your progress in growing and learning on your journey. Forgive those who may have harm you even if that person you need to forgive is yourself.
Let me share my personal testimony of forgiveness. I had a few situations that had set me back in life I thought. I felt like I should have been at a different place in life by a certain time. Over the years I had to forgive those I felt wronged me in some way. But I soon realized some situations I were in were because I allowed it to happen. Meaning I couldn’t only hold one person responsible for what happened to me. I had to see my role in EVERTYTHING I went through. Then it hit me. Yes forgive others but I have to also forgive myself for even being in the situations in the first place. Once I truly forgave myself, it was like a huge weight was lifted off of me.
Think about it for a minute. Sometimes the one you have to forgive truly is yourself.
Take Care of Yourself
From one single mother to another I hope you found some encouragement in this post today. Remember you can do everything that is put before you to do and stay positive about things. If things are not great now, they will get better. Stay encouraged and keep your head up.
Remember there is at least one child looking at you as example to follow in how to handle situations that he or she may have to journey through in adulthood. What you do or how you react to certain situations is teaching your children how to deal with those types of situations.
You Got This!!!