Hey Single Mommas! How are you? I’m asking because I am genuinely interested. A lot of us have never witnessed anything like this before. People are in a panic instead of a state of precaution or protection, stores have changed their operating hours if they are even open at all, events are being canceled and schools have closed until further notice nationwide.
So how is COVID-19 affecting single moms?
First things first, I’m a single mother. My son will be graduating this year and this pandemic makes things a little uncertain for him. Schools in my area have instituted distance learning so he’ll be able to still get assignments completed and turned in and receive the credits needed, but what about prom and graduation. Right now we are really unsure. He just does not want to have to graduate online lol. (We saw a meme that said click to walk across the stage).
My daughter on the other hand is enjoying this time away from school, well sort of. She is of course, as other children are I’m sure, loving the idea of not having to go to school, but she is bored being at home. You see, she still wants to be social. She wants to still go to parties or somewhere just to hang out with her friends. Needless to say she does not understand the concept of social distancing. I will have to find safe ways to entertain the both of them or they just might lose their minds during this time LoL.
As I think of other single moms who may have younger children, what are those mothers doing? I mean it’s harder for them right. The children can’t stay home alone. Those mothers will have to 1. Find care for the kids as they work, or 2. stay home with their kids. Either of the two will prove to be quite costly. Or maybe the companies they work for will offer a work from home option? I’ve been praying for single mothers during this time because this situation can prove stressful.
Here are a few suggestions on getting through this time with your children at home.
- Institute learning time. This is not intended to be a vacation time for the kids. They are still expected to attend “EClass” and complete assignments. For my children the one rule I have in play for this time is that they login and complete their assignments before 4pm. I give them that time limit simply because they will laze around all day doing nothing and then try to get everything at the last minute. So I expect that when I get home that their work is complete with maybe the exception of assignments they may have needed help with.
- Allow some kind of free time. My children are teens so this will be a little different for us. But I encourage them to go outside (that don’t happen too often). Allow them to FaceTime their friends a little more often. I still am a little iffy on allowing them to go to friends houses or parties, you know for the sake of social distancing and they absolutely hate that.
- For those of you who have younger children you may consider allowing them to play outside as well or taking a walk.
- Movie Night. Movie Night may be an option for children of all ages. Get their favorite movies, popcorn, candy and enjoy the night. Make it eventful, decorate the room, turn the lights out. Make it something they will remember. So when they are older they will have a ‘remember that one time when’ moment.
- Lets Cook/Bake. Get the ingredients needed for your children favorite meals or treats and have them help. They will love the idea of helping make their favorite dinner or baking a treat that mom loves.
- Game Night. All kids like to have fun and play games right? What’s your child’s game of choice? UNO? Twister? Hide and Seek? Tag Your It? What ever it is have fun with it. In most cases your child would just be excited to play a game with you. Teenagers included, LoL. My kids like to beat me in UNO. That’s our game of choice.
- Dance like you’re crazy. Turn on some music as loud as you can stand it and just dance the stress of being stuck in the house off. My daughter will open YouTube and turn on all the line dance songs you can think of and we’ll just dance. She likes to see me get tired as we do the Cha Cha Slide I think LoL.
I myself work for a major retailer so the worst I fear is my hours getting cut drastically eventually. But some are already experiencing the stress of COVID-19 at work. Some have the opportunity to work from home and still bring in income, for some, a hours may have been cut, and others their work places have been closed until further notice. You know for the mothers who have children too young to stay home alone they may have to take off on their own account to stay home with their children.
- Create a Budget. If you don’t have a budget in place, there’s no better time to create one than now. Create a budget and stick to it. Unfortunately this is where we are and we don’t know how long this will last and don’t know the long term effects this will have on our income.
- Spend Wisely. This actually goes with creating a budget, but spend wisely. Stop spending money on unnecessary things. For me, this means to cut out on fast food (hmm maybe I can lose weight). Or this may mean to be frugal.
- Bring your kids to work day. Because the children are physically out of school during this time speak with your job and see if bringing your children to work is an option.
- Work From Home. Is this an option? Talk to the right person and find out. Your company may offer that opportunity during this time frame.
- Side Hustle. OK so what should you do if you lose too many hours, or your job altogether, but need some income?Find your hustle. What ever that may be for you in this time. You may try baby sitting, or tutoring. I’m sure something will come to you.
So again I ask, Single Momma, How are you? Are you OK? How are you managing? Are you taking care of you in this time? Slow down take a moment and breathe. Take care of the kids, take care of yourself but I pray you don’t panic and don’t worry.
I usually end with You Got This! But today I will say yes You Got This, but God has already taken care of this.
“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7.
I will continue to pray for Single Mommas during this time. I pray that after reading this post you have a bit more encouragement and hope to get through this with new peace of mind. Leave a comment and let me know you were here and any suggestions that you may have for this time.
You Got This!