My schedule lately has been somewhat obstructive to my spiritual walk. Mainly because I don’t work necessarily a consistent schedule. You know the Monday through Friday 9 – 5 type of job. No, I work weekends, sometimes I have to be at work at 5 am or earlier, and there’s this oh so special occasions when I have to be at work 3rd or graveyard shifts. (I don’t like it). But this past week we had what my church called a Family First Event. The speaker that night preached and encouraged me so much so that I want to encourage you in return. (From a single mother’s point of view of course)
The 5 things a single mother should always do concerning her children.
1. Pray over your children!
Now this list does not need a specific numbering order to it but I did believe this should be number 1. Pray over your children. Your prayer may be the one thing that keeps them from harm throughout their day. The fact that you have covered them in prayer can give you the piece of mind that they will be OK as they go throughout their day. Praying for or over them also encourages their prayer life. If they see/hear you praying it will build up their faith to know that they can pray to God and He will answer.
2. Speak Life into your children!
Our children, this generation, they tend to go through things that we may have no clue about as parents. They deal with bullying, from friends, classmates and even teachers. They may not do so well in a particular class or on a test and get discouraged. They deal with low self-esteem and so much other things as well. Along with praying over your children it also important to speak life into your children.
You know the scripture “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.” Proverbs 18:21 KJV. There is another that says “Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.” Proverbs 15:4 NLT. As I have said before our children deal with a lot. Don’t crush their spirit by what you say to them.
3. Talk to Them!
Talk to your children. Ask them about the Good, the Bad and the Ugly of their day. Kids tend to secretly go through stuff that they keep to themselves. Keep an open and honest conversation going. Allow your children to be open and honest. Encourage them to speak freely (respectively of course). Yes there may be some tough conversations and some surprises but have those conversations.
Don’t criticize when/if they should make those mistakes, correction is needed but don’t judge them. Have a conversation about what could happen by that poor decision, how they could have handled that situation better and how they can work their way around that situation as to not making that decision again. A lot of times our children don’t talk to us as their parents because they know momma is going to be upset, they know they will disappoint with the decision they have made. Ultimately keeping secrets and staying to themselves. You be their outlet. Encourage them to talk to you and not hide things. You can catch somethings before they happen.
4. Show your Affection!
This may not be a common thing to do. Especially with boys. But show them you love them. Give a Hug. Tell them your proud. Tell them you love them. Let them hear it. Sometimes we may come down on them to harsh and they forget that what we do in correction or giving direction is out of love. Express your self. If you don’t show your affection someone else will. And there is a good chance that’s not a good thing. Tell your child you love them, give them hugs. I try to still kisses on the cheeks from mine. I love doing so because they hate it lol.
5. Don’t forget to tell them you love them!
This one can actually be tied in with number 4. But I can’t say it enough. Tell your child you love them. Let them hear you say that. It may make all the difference in their week. Knowing that all that they may go through at school they still have momma at home who loves them.
So those are the 5 things that I believe every single mother should do concerning their children. Doing these things can open relationships up between you and your children. You may discover things about them you did not know previously. You may hear that they have more bad or ugly happening in their week than good. Doing these things allows your child to find strength emotionally and you are able to be available to work through any issue that your child may have at school, with friends, and maybe even within your family. Listen to them, Pray for them, Encourage them, and Let them know you love them.
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Until Next Time
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